Am I being unreasonable here?

[shefearsnothing]

The short version here:

So we're in Va this weekend...coming home to Pa tomorrow (Monday). We've had trouble using the safe in the hotel where we're staying. It's a POS which pretty much means it fits in with the hotel itself. We have never stayed in a place like this shithole. It is serving its purpose at the bare minimum and our children are having a WONDERFUL time and that's the most important but I digress. Last night we had someone up here TWICE and finally decided not to use the safe anymore. Oh yeah, we have my glock 26 (Roxi) and my husband's beretta 92 with us (he is "too cool" to name his guns or I am just "too weird" that I do or something like that...depends on who you ask I guess?) Anyway, I went for a bike ride with my dad this morning and came back with our kids...took Roxi with me of course. I come back and before I get in the shower I told him where I put it. We have gun locks with us and it was out of the reach and VIEW of children not to mention they did not know where it was either. I didn't want him inadvertantly stumbling upon it while I was showering as I felt it was fair that he know where she was located. I should have just taken her in the bathroom with me but like I said, this place is a SHITHOLE and the ventilation fan in there doesn't do SHIT for all the moisture and I didn't want to subject her to that. So I am getting out of the shower and he comes to the door and tells me he wants to come in and talk to me. I said no tell me from there because I am still all wet and just now drying off. He tells me that he was messing with the safe and it was working about 15 times so he put EVERYTHING in there and closed it and it wouldn't open back up!

I SAID WTH WERE YOU DOING TOUCHING MY FIREARM!!!!!!!?????? OMG HE IS CRAZY!!!!! I have NEVER touched ANY of his stuff without asking or without his knowledge. NONE OF IT! I AM SO FUCKING PISSED. Sorry for the language. I'm just saying, am I blowing it out of proportion? Looking at it from the outside does it seem like I'm just pissed that it's now unaccessable to me entirely and I'm blaming it on him for trying to be as safe as possible? (no pun intended)

[Scud]

It is understandable in fitting in with personal accountability, but it sounds like something that all of you will be able to get over as soon as you can get that POS safe open.

[Emptymag]

Husband and wife?
You both knew there were problems operating the safe?
He put valuables in it anyway?

Oh, hecks no, I ain't touching THIS one! LOL!

(I feel sorry for him. a little.)

[Twister]

I think a husband/wife relationship might have room for such things. Granted, I would be angry as well if my significant other locked my gun in an unopenable safe

[shefearsnothing]

Seriously? You think it makes a diff because it's my HUSBAND? Well I said it before but maybe it bears repeating, "I use the term loosely". I know that would make him sad but that's just how it is. I would NEVER touch his firearms. I expect the SAME respect and courtesy from him. Perhaps you're correct and I'm being unreasonable though. I did ask for opinions so thanks.

[Huntingdonhavoc]

I've opened cheaper sentry safes with a wrong key and a little force because of the terrible locking device. And I've also seen locks with a tube key unlocked with a bic pen. Either way best of luck with the safe. When I stay somewhere with more then one firearm I use the gunvault and find a way of securing it.

[soberbyker]

Personal property and privacy can be very touchy items in a marriage. You share just about everything with a spouse, yet there are some areas in which you do like/want privacy.

My wife will open my (US) mail and even though it's just the utility bills it sometimes makes me feel my privacy has been breached. Sometimes I'll pick up her cell phone and look at who's she's been talking too. She doesn't like that. You need to set out any boundaries as they come up in a marriage.

Folks who have been married a long time will tell you they don't have many things they keep from each other, if any at all. They'll tell you they're in it together, and share everything, no reservations.

In your situation had the safe been working properly would you have had the same reaction? I think that's the answer whether or not you over reacted.

Bill
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[bigbear]

Are the boundries clearly delineated in your relationship? Although I am married, I don't go into my wife's purse, and she doesn't go into my wallet, without specific permission in each case. And, we don't open each other's mail. There are other things, but I won't bore you by listing them all. However, we can and do touch each other's weapons, (I usually clean hers after she shoots it) and other property without problems.

If he knew that he should not be touching your weapon, or other property, and he did so anyway, then I guess you have justification to be pissed. But if not, then he should be made aware so it doesn't happen again.

JMHO

Eric

[shefearsnothing]

Yep. I can say without hesitation that I would have still been pissed if it would have re-opened because he touched it without asking me and I NEVER do that to him. I mean I don't even do it right in front of him. I just think firearms are a personal thing like that. I hope I have made it clear to him so it NEVER happens again. The guy from the office did come and get it open AGAIN and she has been returned to my possession. All is well in that dept.

[pex]

Should have signed a prenuptial about touching each other's firearms. Your bad!