If you're going to load a few (less than 100) at a time for several different calibers, I recommend a single stage press (or two if you have the space), or a turret press, and Lee dies. The Lee dies are good quality, easy to adjust, and inexpensive. 2 used presses can be found fairly cheap and can be quite handy, but a turret press with quick change turrets is even handier.
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If you were going to load large quantities of just one or two calibers I'd suggest going with a progressive setup.
As far as books are concerned, there are several available, I haven't seen a "bad" one yet. Lyman books are good, ABC's of Reloading is real good, Modern Reloading by Richard Lee is good. Get more than one book and read them, then keep them handy to your work area and use them often.
eBay can be a good source of books and equipment, but not without risk of being scammed or getting damaged or inferior goods.
There are several threads here regarding getting started in reloading, there is more advice than you could shake a stick at. All of the advice could generate more questions than answers. What it boils down to is your individual situation and needs. Feel free to post with more specific details of what you want and need, such as approximate quantities you expect to load in one session, number of different calibers you want to load for, how much available space you have, how much $$ you're comfortable spending to get started, etc..
We'll do our best to give you appropriate advice.
I do most of my reloading at the kitchen table with a Lee hand press. If I'm going to load a substantial quantity, I'll use one or 2 of my bench mounted single stage presses, it all depends on the job. I don't do enough of any one caliber at one time to justify a progressive press, and I found good used single stage presses cheap enough that I haven't felt the need to buy a turret press (yet).